For a handful of years my morning's looked a bit like a full fledged tornado. I would roll out of bed, skip breakfast, and rush to work with a head of hair half brushed. For whatever reason, I was under the impression that my day started the moment I sat at my desk and the hour before that was non-exsistant. I would hangrily (hungry/angry) shove food down my throat in front of my computer and dive into the day's emails. It's no surprise that this routine wasn't setting me up for success. I was a disaster, and no fun to be around (sorry friendly folks that still follow me)! It wasn't long before it started to take a toll on my physical and mental well-being. And when I fall, I fall hard. There had to be a change.
I realized that I wasn't serving anyone in not serving myself first. Shocker! In fact, I was doing exactly the opposite. I was running on empty and spitting angry fumes at anyone in my path. Now, that's no way to live!
We've all heard it before, but I can't stress it enough. The first moments of your day determine your entire day. Be intentional with how you use them. What are you doing that isn't setting you up to put your best foot forward? You don't want to be immediately giving away your energy. First dive inside, take a deep breath and acknowledge what you're working with.
It's not always possible to have nice long leisurely mornings that allow for yoga, meditation, journaling, tonic making, and play time ALL before the actual "work day" begins. But hey, sometimes just a little goes a long way. You just need to do something, anything, that grounds you into your space. Make it a priority.
You're not a morning person? I get it. But try going to bed earlier. Close down your screens at least an hour before shut eye. Get into the rhythm of checking in with yourself. You may just realize that you're exhausted and ready to pass out at 8pm.
You're convinced meditation and your brain aren't friends? I challenge that. Come on. You can watch your breath for one single minute. You can do anything for one minute. Just try, try, and try again.
Another great thing to add is "habit stacking" if you're getting kickback from your attempts. This involves stacking a current habit (making coffee) with a new desirable habit (meditation) so whenever you do one, you make sure to do the other next. (HERE is a good article on that). I'm not having your excuses people, and neither should you.
You are the only one who is responsible for your happiness. Get up and do the damn thing.
Here's a peak at how I nourish my mind, body and spirit first thing in the morning...
- WAKE UP & CUDDLE THE PUP
- First things first, I sleep with a little furry heartbeat at the foot of my bed. It's physically impossible to not be immediately smitten with his baby blue eyes the moment I rise. A couple head scratches and a belly rub and I'm good to go. That's enough to get a smile on my face instantly.
- MORNING MEDITATION / GRATITUDE PRACTICE
- If I have time for a thirty minute morning meditation, I dive in. I usually pick something that speaks to me from the Insight Timer meditation app. There are great teachers and topics to choose from. If I have time constrictions I make sure to (at the very least) consciously list five things that I am grateful for that day. It doesn't matter how small they are, just the simple fact of acknowledging what is wonderful in your life is enough to put some pep in your step.
- TONIC TIME
- I say "tonic" because my morning coffee comes with a slew of added superfoods. Also, because some day I would like to think that I won't be aggressively addicted to coffee like I am at the moment. Eek! I've come to really enjoy the ritual around making my morning brew. As the coffee seeps in the french press I get creative with the day's concoction that goes into the blender. It's generally a modified version of Bulletproof (plus Moon Dusts and a handful of adaptogens for good measure). After a quick blend in the vitamix, I put on some music and sip the sweet caffeine into my bloodstream with the occasional booty shake to the beat.
- MOVE YOUR BODY
- This is a non-negotiable for me. If I don't get a little time to check in with my body I am guaranteed to be living the day from the wrong side of the bed. That's never a comfortable situation for anyone. I mix up my workouts with yoga (Sweat Yoga in Santa Monica), Soulcycle classes, The Class with TT (you have to check this out if you haven't done it before!) and weight training at the gym. It's important to mix up your workouts for a handful of reasons, but most importantly for me... to not get bored. I'm never sorry I worked out, but I can probably find enough reasons not to go if I'm bored of it.
Now, I realize this isn't something that everyone can do daily but for me it's a requirement. I wake up early and make the time to take care of myself because I know that if I don't I'm an asshole. We don't need anymore assholes roaming free.
And again, you don't have anything to give if you don't first give to yourself. I think we have a theme here (wink wink). This is not just a bullshit saying... it's real world FACT. I encourage you to give yourself some time to do, to be, and to reflect. It will show up in every other interaction throughout your day. Ultimately it's your choice. How do you want to show up in the world?
Let me know how it goes and holler if you need any help getting started! I'm always here for you boo.